© COPYRIGHT 2018 Boyd A. Hamlin All Rights Reserved.
John Maxwell and Jim Dornan said it well in the book, “Becoming A Person Of Influence”, when they wrote, “The breadth of your influence on others relates directly to the depth of your concern for them”. Nurturing provides the fuel for a person’s tank to go further down life’s road. Most of the world has run out of gas, functioning on fumes or parked on the side of the road because their life is on “E”!
People don’t need a self-serve gas station experience – when you’re out of gas it’s difficult to fill yourself back up. You need a full-service gas station experience. When my dad was a young man, he worked at a full-service gas station. When a customer pulled in, a bell rang indicating that someone was in need of a fill-up. My dad would check the oil, tire pressure, wash the windshield and even provide a trash bag for your trash while you waited for your tank to be filled up. But, it was more than your tank that got filled up. Dad tells a story of an elderly lady who needed a fill-up. She drove into the station, asked for my dad. When she was told that he was off for the day, she left. The next day she returned when dad was on-duty and expressed her joy to see him. He filled her car’s tank and her heart every time she pulled into the station. He showed her that she was more than a customer, but a person to be cared for. When you care for people, they will come to you to be filled-up so they can tackle the next stretch of road before them.
People of all ages need the same full-service experience. The fuel – Affirmation, Affection, Acceptance, Availability, Accountability, Award (Recognition), Respect, Hope, Help, Encouragement, Equipping and a little humor to top it off.
Greeting – HUMOR – I’m not talking about slap-stick stupidity! I’m talking about a greeting that breaks down walls and allows one to connect with others. Fun draws people to you in a way that communicates, “I’m safe and here to help you”.
Windshield – ENCOURAGE – We get a lot of negative bugs on our life’s windshield. Positive words reassure us and clear the way for a person to see that they matter.
Tires/Oil Change – EQUIP – When your tires are filled with air and the dipstick shows even with the mark, you gain a confidence that you can go a few extra miles. Equipping others is key in helping them get where they are going.
Trash bag – HELPFUL – Providing a trash bag helps a person know there’s a place to put the trash they accumulate. They don’t have to hang on to it for the stretch of road before them.
When you genuinely care for others, you fill their tank with every encounter. If we nurture them properly, they will never need roadside assistance.